Stress is an inevitable part of life and so you’ll never be able to avoid stress completely. The best way to cope with stress is to learn how to deal with it and here are 10 ways to do just that ...
Some stress can be good, and we can all thrive under a certain amount of it — so our goal should not be to eliminate stress completely, but to learn how to manage it and how to use it to our advantage.
Just as there are many sources of stress, there are also many ways of dealing with it — all of which work around changing the sources of stress and/or changing your reaction to it. Here are realbuzz.com's top tips on how to deal with stress:
Change how you react to stress
One simple solution would be to say ‘stop stressing!’ to yourself — which, if you say it out loud, will stop your train of thought when you’re stressing too much. Of course, it’s not always easy to stop stressing, as stress is an instinctive reaction — and some stressors will be out of our control. The best way to deal with stress is to make a conscious decision to change your reaction to it when stress occurs. So, when you begin to feel stressed about a particular problem, say ‘stop stressing!’ to yourself and try to put the problem into perspective.Recognise when you’re feeling stressed
Look for the warning signs of stress. Symptoms include tension, exhaustion, loss of or increased appetite, sleeplessness or oversleeping, headaches, and crying, among others. Compulsive behaviour and ‘escaping from problems’ through the use of alcohol or drugs are also often indications of stress. Recognising the signs of stress should set your alarm bells ringing so that you can start to apply some of the techniques for coping.Avoid situations that make you stressed
Of course, avoiding events or things that lead to stress is not always possible — or even beneficial — but it can sometimes be a good idea. If you find that you always become stressed in certain situations, then it might be good to stay away from stressors where possible. For example, if you get stressed about queuing in supermarkets and traffic jams, then why not get someone else to queue or do the driving occasionally?Don't worry about things you can't control
Some things can drive you up the wall so much that you’ll feel like you’re about to explode, but the actual stressors causing you to feel this way may be out of your control. Why freak out just because the weather’s not good or there’s a problem at work that you can’t avoid? If you accept a situation that you can’t control then it will be more bearable for everyone concerned — yourself included!Work to resolve conflicts
Unresolved conflict with other people is an unnecessary source of stress. Try to resolve conflicts whenever possible rather than wasting energy worrying about them. Even if you try but you’re unable to resolve it, then at least you have tried — which will mean you’ll worry a lot less by knowing that you’ve done everything you could possibly do.Use stress to your advantage
A little stress can be used to help drive you on to achieve something. Sometimes you’ll need an adrenalin rush to focus the mind and ready yourself for something. For example, think of a person about to do a parachute jump for the first time: if they don’t get an adrenalin rush, then they’re unlikely to go through with the jump. So, stress can be used to your advantage — provided that you don’t allow it to overpower you.Share your problems
Talking about a problem with a partner or friend may make all the difference to your stress levels. Bottling up things often makes them feel worse than they actually are — which can make you get things out of perspective. Talking about a problem can eliminate or reduce your worry about it — so the saying ‘a problem shared is a problem halved’ is very true.Have a good cry
There is a tendency among people (especially men) to try to suppress their tears because they fear they will be seen as weak — but crying is actually a great way to relieve tension. Frequently you’ll hear people saying ‘go on, have a good cry — it’ll do you some good’. These people already have the wisdom of knowing the benefits of letting out all those pent-up emotions.Find a hobby — in other words, throw yourself into an activity so you can escape from your worries for a while. Anything from reading a good book to doing spot of gardening can take your mind off things — and the more frequently you do it, the greater the benefits will be. Hobbies can provide a good bit of escapism without having to resort to other methods of escapism such as alcohol or drugs.