Don’t push sex to the bottom of your to-do list
Many people underestimate the importance of sex and it keeps getting pushed further and further down the to-do list until it eventually falls off the page. Sex is an important part of your emotional and physical bonding as a couple and should be right up there with sleeping and housework on your priority list in order to maintain a healthy relationship. Push less important things down the to-do list and bring sex back up to the top.
Be creative with your multi-tasking
Don’t feel like you need to stick to the conventional idea of going to bed to have sex. When you’re feeling too busy to do the deed, multi-tasking can often be a good excuse to try things you may not have thought of. If you need to take a shower, get dirty while you’re getting clean by having a little sexy time in there. If you’re doing the laundry, have sex aboard the washing machine... Let your lack of time work in your favour by being creative and the spark will be back in your sex life in a flash.
Don’t stop dating
Many couples fall into the trap of thinking that dates are for potential new love interests who are eager to impress one another, but this really shouldn’t be the case. Whether you’ve been with your partner for one week, one year or one decade, it’s important to set aside some alone time to keep the romance alive. Sex usually comes hand-in-hand with spending intimate time together, so make more time to spend as a couple and you’ll be having more sexy time before you can say “I don’t have time”.
Have a quickie
Having plenty of time for some long, slow sex may be ideal but sometimes short and sweet can be just as good. The intensity and speed involved in quick sex sometimes even makes it more exciting. Grab your partner before they head to work and enjoy. Who said there’s not enough time for sex?
Schedule it in
This might sound a little unromantic but if you’re really struggling to make time for sex, make a conscious effort to schedule it in at least once a week and you’re more likely to stick to it. We’re not suggesting that you start scrawling “sex” all over your calendar, but by making a verbal agreement with your other half to ‘watch a movie in bed’ (wink wink) every Tuesday for example, you’re more likely to stick to it and you can prepare in advance – get plenty of sleep the night before and think about it throughout the day to get you in the mood.
Do the chores together
When you’re both too busy to make time for sex, start helping each other out with small tasks. Maybe you usually help the children with their homework or your other half usually does the shopping after work? In situations like these, chop and change who does which task to use both of your time more efficiently. Make sure you spend the time you have left doing something romantic!
Have some pre-foreplay
When you’re both busy throughout the day, start enticing your other half with suggestive text messages to get them excited. This way, you’ll both be waiting for your sexy time together all day and when you finally get home later on, the moment the front door has closed it’ll be game on!
Don’t wait until night time
Don’t always wait until night time when you’re getting into bed for sex and hope for the best; by the time you’ve been snuggling up in your comfy pyjamas watching TV with a mug of tea, you’re likely to be feeling drowsy before bed. Instead, try and fit in a good sex session before dinner time or in the morning.
Try sex toys
Sometimes when we’re stressed and busy (which seems to be most of the time for the majority of us), we think more about our bloated stomachs and dry skin than feeling sexy and doing the deed. If you need a little helping hand to get you in the mood, invest in a sex toy that you and your partner can use together. Whether you buy a fun pair of furry handcuffs or invest in something a little more expensive, toys like these are sure to get you in the mood in a matter of seconds – no more excuses about it taking too long!
Don’t underestimate the importance of sex
While it’s easy to get swept away with the hustle and bustle of modern life, if you really want to make time for sex then there are plenty of ways to go about it. Don’t feel as though it’s something you shouldn’t be doing because it ‘isn’t productive’ – it is important for your relationship. Yes, the dishes might need doing and yes, the grocery shopping might need to be done too, but why can’t these tasks take the backseat for a change?
Pleasure, an instant mood booster and a kilojoule burner all rolled into one – what’s not to love about sex? Unfortunately though, it’s not that we don’t want to do it but that many of us simply can’t find the time to do it as often as we would like. We’ve come up with an action plan to help you make more time for sex...